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As a user of gay dating sites, this made me think about the danger inherent in meeting men who I know nothing about, other than what they choose to tell me, which may or may not be true.
My experience of meeting men from these sites has been overwhelmingly positive, and I have always prided myself on being a good judge of character. In reality, I never really know if the person I am about to meet is a safe bet. This realisation was further compounded when I recently re-joined Grindr.
Although gay dating sites provide a useful platform in allowing men to meet each other, Christopher Halton writes for Pink News of how they can also put some gay men at risk.
On Monday, I was one of 30 or so men to take part in the filming of an advert for Survivors UK, a lottery funded charity set up to support men who have been raped or sexually abused.
Anyone who has spent time on Grindr or Gaydar will know that it is common to receive sexually aggressive messages accompanied by photographs of the sender in provocative poses, often naked.
Sometimes, the only photographic evidence of themselves they wish to send are close-up shots of their penises.
If any of these men had been abusive or put pressure on me to do things I wasn’t comfortable doing, I could well have found myself going along with them.
A decade ago, I just didn’t have the emotional confidence to refuse.
Beforehand, I researched the charity and read the testimony of a young man who had met someone he had been chatting to on an internet dating site.
It was the first contact he had had with other gay men.